If you were getting something from someone you did not like, would you pretend to like them and pretend to be nice to them to keep getting what you want?

depends on what I wanted

Most likely I would not pretend. I have had too many best friends use me for something other than friendship. Homework, someone to hang out with, and a guy friend ruined our friendship...

Now I have a hard time telling my friends things, I think they might be useing me and I don't want to tell them my deepest secrets

I wouldn't lie. If you don't like someone and don't appreciate hearing from them, don't associate yourself with them. It's so much easier being staright up with people.

You'd think it was. I was really straight up with someone today and ended up hurting someone's feelings because of the way I felt.

Kismet let me tell you a story...

I was best friends with the most popular girl in my class. Her name is Sara. We were friends in 5th grade where she made me a 'cool' person. I stopped wearing geek close and joined her circle. We were best friends until 7th grade where she joined the popular crowd. Of course I went with her, I was her shadow. After that we grew apart and she never invited me over anymore. I was never invited to the group outings. I was cut out of conversations. but I stayed with Sara through Middle School, I had no other friends. Then in 9th grade, I had enough. I wrote her a note saying how I hated being in the back ground, and her only being a real friend to me when we were alone. I was tired of being afriad that she would turn on me. She is famous for starting dumb fights.

I wasmiserable for the first half of freshman year. After that letter she never spoke to me again. We don't look at each other in the hall. I aviod her as much as possible.

but now I am able to make my own friends, and like my life better. I am not afirad to talk to people at aren't 'cool'

So even if life sucks now, it will get better. Trust me. My new best friend is the best I've ever had. We can have a agrument but move on to a different topic and all if forgotten.

Life gets better!

I went down that same road a few years ago Zinnia, it sucked, I moved onto bigger, better things and laugh on how clueless those girls are. They have no idea what is outside of this little town and what the real world is like. I'm way better off...

I hate being the shadow... sometimes I feel like Im in caissies shadow... shes got all these 'more popular' friends and whatnot and hangs out with them all the time, but we definetly arent as close as we used to be... we rarely hang out...

Ive never really been the shadow before... I was always willing to go up and talk to new people.... but then I got let down, like most people do in their lives... and I just havent been teh same outspoken person since... I do still intorduce myself to people when I feel comfortable, when they dont feel like they would reject me... Ive become more emotionally self-concious, but somehow, Ive become less physically self-concious...

I guess I have more of an 'I-dont-care' attitude when it comes to meeting people now. If they want to talk to me, they will. If I want to talk to them and feel comfortable, I will, but otherwise, I try to stay distant.

I guess I sort of pretend to like a lot of people. There are a lot of people that I truly just I dont know, but that doesnt mean taht Im going to avoid them or snub them. for instance, my exboyfriend's exgirlfriend. I used to hate her guts... and it started out that I pretended to like her when I had a class with her this semester, but now I guess I really dont mind her, shes pretty nice, sometimes her ideas are just.... off....

I try to be as nice as I can to everyone. I try to accept their ideas and their opinions, sometimes I just cant help it though and I have to blow off steam. But really, I dont care if the person is what people would call a loser or a geek or something, that doesnt mean taht I am not going to talk to them, just because other people dont talk to them, doesnt mean anything to me. I try to think how I would feel if I were like them and no one talked to me. Ive never used anyone for anything. What would I need to for? If I dont have it and they do, they obviously worked hard for whatever it is and thats just how everyone else should gain it. Not mooch off of anyone else...

and there is my babble about being nice to your peers, no matter who they are... do you really think Colombine would have happened if people were just a little nicer???

QUOTE (Kismet @ Apr 18 2003, 01:54 AM)

If you were getting something from someone you did not like, would you pretend to like them and pretend to be nice to them to keep getting what you want?

yes, unless i cared about their feelings, which isn't likely, think what you want

i never pretend to be or act like somone im not,, it comes back to bit you in the ass..
and if i dont like them i probabaly hate having them around so i woyuld prefer them gone than around if i pretend to like them

QUOTE (Kismet @ Apr 17 2003, 07:54 PM)

If you were getting something from someone you did not like, would you pretend to like them and pretend to be nice to them to keep getting what you want?

Definitely not!

i tryyyyy not to do that,....but ya know....i mean some ppl think i m their good friends and offer for me to come somewhere with them...and i jus m like...o god i should b nice to u ...since u want to do all this for me...meanwhile they jus aint that special to me...but whatevever....most ppl walk themselves into it....

i think you should be honest! honesty is always the best, even if it hurts peoples feelings. if its the way you feel, you shouldnt be afraid to tell people, what they make of it is their problem